1. Whenever I get into a relationship – which is not that often – I use the six month anniversary as the point when I “take stock.” Am I happy in this relationship? Happier than when I was alone? Is she happy? Does she seem happy? Should I stay here or move on? I recently had a conversation with someone that convinced me that maybe six months was too short. You’re still in the honeymoon. Nine months might be better. Either way, does anyone else do this? When is your threshold?
2. When the landlord knocks on your door and you’re in your boxers and say “Who is it?” and she announces herself and you say “Just a minute” and proceed to look for clothes and she walks in anyway, it’s pretty fucking annoying.
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I haven't ever done a formal "taking stock of the state of the relationship", so I can't give any kind of comment on that. I've only had a few relationships that had anniversaries of note, one of which I missed the "is she not happy" signals and was surprised when we broke up. Currently married for 6.5 years, so not expecting any issues there. On the underwear front, this is exactly the kind of story that proves the utility of my underwear choice theory. Everyone should always wear the least practical underwear that's comfortable. If you can't be comfortable unless you're in jockeys, at least wear zebra striped jockeys. My personal favorites are my lucky bongo monkey boxers, but that's me.
Posted by Michael | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16
the boxers were kind of blah. i need to do some shopping. it was unlocked! she just waltzed right in. red flags... yeah. i need to open my eyes a little more. sometimes i think i gravitate toward the red flags. dude, 6 months. wow. but that 13 years kind of makes a difference. you might have known that you would marry her, but was she aware of this?? hah, i jest.
Posted by particleman | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16
and no, 6 months is not too early. if it were you could end up wasting your entire life going from one evaluation phase to another. you know when you know (could that be any more of a cop-out?). i knew i would marry bree before we ever even dated (in a wholesome non-stalker sort of way of course).
Posted by carrico | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16
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i think next time the landlady does that you should give her a wink and tell her you're glad she finally came to see the gun show...
Posted by carrico | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16
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I dunno, I married my wife at the six month mark, so I can't really give advice as to that. We both seem to be happy, if in a slightly dysfunctional way. Of course, we'd also known each other for 13 years before we started dating, so I'm sure that has to come into play somewhere as well. As for the landlady - always keep a spare pair of sweats in each room of the apartment so you can get them on quickly and not risk your giblets being on display.
Posted by Steve | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16
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Wait - did the landlady unlock the door or was it already unlocked? Maybe you should lock your door. Unless she has a key & just unlocks it on her own. Or maybe the landlady just wanted to catch a glimpse of your manparts. ;) I don't think 6 months is too short, but it's been about 4 years since I had to think about that. I think my honeymoon period usually ends sooner. Wait, does that sound really sad? Should it be longer? Am I totally jaded? But really, I think by month 3 the other person's flaws have already started to come out & it's time to decide whether they are dealbreakers or not. My problem is that I don't always pay attention to red flags & by the time I can't stand it anymore, I'm already so sucked in that it takes another year or two to extricate myself. But I'm pretty dysfunctional. Don't take any relationship advice from me!
Posted by heather | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16
hehehe... to all of it. 98% better today, by the way. and were they at least hott boxers? or the boring white ones?
Posted by heatherfeather | February 10, 2007 8:16 PM
Posted on February 10, 2007 20:16